Food is the center of gathering across so many different cultures. Between Kim and Stacy’s cultural upbringing and backgrounds, they have been both the witness and recipient of bad food etiquette at a shared dinner table. Together, they are determined to help others discover their own curiosity to explore foods that may not be familiar.
Curious Food Etiquette
For both Kim and Stacy, it’s been a struggle to accept and find peace with our unique cultural food identity. Despite our intimate experiences with food, customs, and celebrations growing up abroad, We touch on how we’ve lost a lot of those experiences in our current lives and how navigating it is a work in progress.
Through this shared experience, The Bossy Bees share how they are encouraging a curious food etiquette at home, work, and within their community of friends and family:
- Becoming proactive rather than reactive with etiquette requires us to acknowledge our own triggers with food. What does your relationship look like with your culture and food?
- Exploring our intersectional identities also means exploring how that relates to food. When we embrace a curious mindset with food, we are going to show up with empathy and kindness to ourselves and those around us.
- It IS rude to call someone’s food gross, nasty, disgusting, etc. Food is personal and while it may not suit your palette, it may be even more personal and intimate to someone else. Turning your nose up at someone’s food is not a comment, it’s judgmental and it shows that you’re close-minded. Here are some examples of respectful and curious phrases you can use instead:
- “I’ve never encountered this kind of food before, can you tell me a little bit more about it?”
- “I’m not sure I will like it, but, I am open to trying new things at least once!”
- “Thank you for offering, I’ve tried this food before but I think I will pass this time.”
- “I’d really like to have more of this other dish!”
The Bossy Bees feel like there is an opportunity to represent emerging cross-cultural cuisines in the United States. We hope that after you listen to our podcast you understand how exploring food can be a fun and adventurous experience when you embrace curiosity.Stacy and her mom cooking Mofongo for La Noche Buena (Christmas Eve) Dinner
The Bossy Bees is a weekly podcast where we open up to discuss a range of topics that make us laugh, cry, and seriously ponder. We’re here to help you recognize all that you’ve accomplished. For all the times you were told you didn’t have what it takes or that you just aren’t ready, we know you are. Check out some of the recipes we mentioned in our podcast:
Kim prepares kid-friendly Japanese noodles for her family’s New Year’s Eve celebrations.
We also mention understanding and learning more about cultural appropriation, citing examples like the history and understanding of braids. Please refer to the following articles and sites for more information: